'She doesn't get to force everyone to be vegan': Friend group refuse to have Thanksgiving meal with vegan friend after she refuses to let them bring their own meals

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    AITA for telling my vegan friend I don't want to come over for Thanksgiving Dinner?
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    I (54f) have a friend (55f) who went vegan 10 years ago. We've been friends 20 years or more. We have a large group of friends 15-20 and there are a few of us that switch off cooking dinner on Thanksgiving for whoever is in town. Since "Ann" went vegan we've always accommodated her dietary restrictions with at the very least some tofurkey, one side dish and one dessert being strictly vegan.
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    This year Ann jumped in early and for the first time ever said she wanted to cook Thanksgiving this year. Not a problem. Until she informed us in the group chat dinner will be 100% vegan. Some of us offered to bring more omnivore offerings, including a turkey and she insisted we eat vegan while at her house. She declared that vegan food "tastes
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    exactly the same" as omnivore food. It does not. I've been to her house and choked down bean burgers and chocolate cake and probably a dozen other meals each of which she insisted tasted just like the real thing. She even tried to fool me once with a beyond burger, insisting is was a regular hamburger. I have only found a limited number of vegan dishes I enjoy and none of them have ever been made by her.
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    After thinking it over and discussing it with my husband we decided to privately tell her we were bowing out of dinner on Thanksgiving this year. I told her I wanted turkey, mashed potatoes, pumpkin pie that were made with traditional ingredients. I could have lied and said we had plans to travel to see family but I don't want lie. Ann has become angrier and angrier with me since I told her this about a week ago. Then
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    she went and complained to some of the women in our group about me refusing to attend just because she's cooking. Which is sort of true but still made me angry. So I ended explaining to the other ladies that we all very considerately make vegan dishes just for her at every party and get together any of us throw and it's really unreasonable for her to insist that I strictly adhere to her dietary choices
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    when I have never demanded the same from her. So that blew up because all the ladies have now jumped to my way of thinking and decided they will have Thanksgiving at one of their houses instead. (We will not be attending their Thanksgiving either)
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    My husband says we probably should have lied about going out of town or at the very least I should have not explained my reasoning to the other ladies.
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    I've decided to stay out of it from here on out but somehow Anna blames me for the whole debacle. AITA for declining to attended a vegan thanksgiving?
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a hole: I refused to go to a vegan thanksgiving dinner. Then told my other friends why I wasn't going, now none of them are going either. The Thanksgiving host blames me for everyone cancelling.
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    Discount_Mithral NTA. You accommodated her many times over, but she refuses to do so when hosting. I get that being vegan is a choice most people make for ethical reasons, but the BS line of "it all tastes the same!" is so asinine. It doesn't - and they know it. I often eat vegan
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    meals of my own making, but never once have I made it thinking "this will taste just like that meat dish I made yesterday!" I KNOW it doesn't - and I'm happy with my veggies. Hopefully Ann takes this as the eye opening it needs to be. Her beliefs and choices are not something everyone will adopt, and the more she forces it on people, the more those people will reject the
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    idea. I hope she enjoys her Thanksgiving alone, because until she returns the graciousness of providing food for everyone at the table to enjoy based on their dietary choices, that's how she'll be spending it.
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    Entarotupac Pescatarian here. I am pro [food] choice. There are plenty of vegetarian/vegan dishes that are lovely by themselves. The ones that almost always are the ones that are pretending to be something else. Playing food dress up on a holiday defined by the food served will go poorly. NTA
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    Aggravating-It... NTA. If she was fine with people not coming, would be N A H. Like, I don't see anything inherently WRONG with her cooking only vegan fare, but you can't turn around and be upset with people not wanting that. Like, she doesn't get to force everyone to be vegan or they're a bad person lol
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